Sex Tourist

What is a sex tourist?

There are several definitions of a sex tourist:

• "Someone who travels to a country for the sole purpose of having sex".
• "Travel for the purpose of sexual intercourse with prostitutes."
• "Someone who travels to another country for the purpose of paying to have sex, especially with children.
• "a vacation to a destination that has no restrictions on sexual services or activities, as prostitution."

But they don't do they. They eat, they drink, they stay in hotels, they visit the various sightseeing spots, they rent cars, they buy gifts for the folks back home, they watch movies, they dance, they swim, they spend money...oh oh and yes they have sexual relations too.

What is a Tourist?

Tourists get a few dictionary definitions of their own:

• "Someone who travels for pleasure rather than for business."
• "one that makes a tour for pleasure or culture."
• "someone who visits a place for pleasure or interest, usually while they are on holiday."

Note the mention of 'pleasure' there. So what does a tourist actually do?
They eat, they drink, they stay in hotels, they visit the various sightseeing spots, they rent cars, they buy gifts for the folks back home, they watch movies, they dance, they swim, they spend money...oh oh and yes they have sexual relations too.....sometimes with their partners and sometimes with people they meet on their tour.

Pattaya Walking Street

I will be the first to admit it. Men like beautiful women. They also like women who are friendly, women who listen to them, women who seem to care. These women may be younger than them by 20, 30 or even 40 years. If the women are adult, over the age of consent, are consenting and no-one is being hurt then I see nothing wrong in any relationship developing further.

Take a look at this:

Catherine Zeta-Jones and Michael Douglas ...25 years different.
Tim Robbins and Susan Sarandon ...12 years
Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes ...16 years
Harrison Ford and Callista Flockhart ...22 years
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher ...16 years
Joan Collins and Percy Gibson ...32 years
Rod Stewart and Penny Lancaster ...26 years
Margaret and Pierre Trudeau ...30 years
Rupert Murdoch and Wendy Deng ...37 years
Woody Allen and Soon-Yi Previn ...34 years
Billy Joel and Katie Lee Joel ...32 years
Donald Trump and Melania Trump ...24 years
J. Howard Marshall and Anna Nicole-Smith ...63 years
Cary Grant and Barbara Harris ...47 years
Klaus Kinski and Deborah Caprioglio ...42 years
Des O'Connor and Jodie Brook Wilson ...39 years
Clint Eastwood and Dina Ruiz ...35 years
Iris Robinson and Kirk McCambley ...40 years
Allegra Mostyn-Owen and ??? ...22 years

I could go on listing and listing.

Age is largely a state of mind and you really are only as old as you feel. No-one thinks twice about age differences if the people involved are rich and famous so why pick on the less well off? Is it jealousy perhaps? Or perhaps they don't like the idea of someone having fun.
Perhaps the reasons go deeper than this. None of us liked to think of our own parents doing 'it'. Even today the Idea of Howard and Anna Nicole makes me wince. Maybe its just human. We should all lighten up.

Relationships may be long term

The very phrase 'sex tourist' to me conjures up a picture of a 'dirty old man' a 'pervert' but in reality it is nothing like that at all.
Okay they may be older tourists but what is wrong with being old? What is wrong with looking for love, romance, pleasure or fun?
Believe me when I say that in Pattaya or Phuket in Thailand or Balibago in Angeles City in the Philippines if you sit long enough you will see someone you know. It may be your doctor, your vicar, your bank manager, the man from the corner shop, your dad, your uncle, your brother, your grandad, husband or boyfriend. These people are the so called 'sex tourists'.
Not all these relationships are of short duration. You would be amazed at the number of men who over a glass of Thai Whiskey end up marrying Bar Girls or entering long term relationships with Kathoey.

Women do it to

Most people would be surprised to learn that the first women 'sex tourists' were recorded in the 1840's in straight laced Victorian England.

Movies play their part. 'Shirley Valentine' did actually play a part in promotion as did 'How Stella Got Her Groove Back'.
And with women the description usually gets changed from 'Sex Tourist' to something along the lines of 'A Shirley Valentine', 'A Holiday Romance', or 'A Bit of a Fling'. I feel that is a little bit unfair.

Our Kids Do It Too

One would have to be a complete ostrich with head buried in the sand not to realise that our children do it too.
Their first holiday abroad alone or with their mates to Spain, Ibiza, Greece or wherever is not confined to lying on the beach, playing snooker and drinking beer.

The Hidden Agenda

There are the symposiums, the conferences, the annual general meetings, the golf holidays, the casino visits. So many of these take place far away from home. Exotic locations.
Why can people not just admit that underneath it all there is a hidden agenda. No, no-one likes to be called a sex tourist do they?

And Me?

I stumbled upon the world of the 'Pleasure Tourist' by accident.
I took advantage of a cheap ticket to Bangkok just to see what it was like and eventually a year or so later ended up in Pattaya by accident. The same happened in the Philippines...I thought I was landing in Manila and ended up in Clark.
I don't regret either. I am an avid people watcher, it is probably my second favourite activity. I have seen a lot, learned a lot and continue to learn. Lastly, I admit it....I am no Angel.